Playing the Blame Game in Therapy
One of the big hurdles I see in my practice is clients struggling to identify and accept ways in which their caretakers/parents imprinted them with self-concepts and coping skills that, as adults, no longer serve them. Often times exploration and emotional understanding is inhibited due to an understandable reluctance to consider ways in which loving and well-intentioned caretakers could leave hurt that needs repaired/healed. After all, humans often bring unconscious or semi-conscious patterns into their way of relating to the world (including parenting). This can be 'bad' things or it can also be when good things that should have happened just didn't. The point is only to blame if that is where a client is in their process, however, blame is not a prerequisite to healing and growth.